Secondary Infertility—And What to do About It

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Secondary Infertility—And What to do About It

Everything you need to know when you're trying for a second child

Emily Oster

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When we discuss infertility, we often focus on “primary infertility,” a situation defined as one in which a couple is unable to conceive after 12 months of regular unprotected sexual intercourse. (I know the term is also used more colloquially, but this is the formal definition.) Less discussed, but only somewhat less present, is secondary infertility: an inability to conceive after a prior non-treatment-assisted conception.

Secondary infertility is often unexpected. Before beginning to try to get pregnant for the first time, many of us are preoccupied by some version of the worry Will it work? But if it did work the first time, finding it hard a second time can be, among many other feelings, simply confusing.

In addition to being confusing and frustrating, secondary infertility is an experience many parents find themselves fundamentally unsupported in. Comments like, “Well, you should feel lucky you have one!” may be well-meaning (or may not be) but can be incredibly hurtful.

Today I’m going to try to work through some of the confusion, normalize this experience, and answer some of the more specific questions we have gotten over the years about it. There is, of course, so much more to be said about the experience of infertility — it’s a topic that I hope we will have more space for in the newsletter going forward. In the meantime, I would recommend The Trying Game and It Starts with the Egg as helpful, data-based resources.

What is the definition of secondary infertility?

Similar to primary infertility, secondary infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after 12 months of regular unprotected sexual intercourse. The difference is that secondary infertility occurs after a prior non-assisted conception.

The definition seems simple, but a diagnosis isn’t always so clear.

First, note that if a prior pregnancy was conceived through IVF or other assisted reproduction, then a later difficulty conceiving would not be defined as secondary infertility (effectively, it would be a continuation of primary infertility). There isn’t specific language for this situation. As one reader told me: “There’s no language for those who have gone through primary and then secondary infertility, so I just say, ‘I’m continuously infertile.’ ”

Second, there can be circumstances after a first birth (notably, breastfeeding) in which you are not ovulating for a known reason. Failure to conceive during this period would not be considered secondary infertility, even if you were having unprotected intercourse.

Finally, there is a distinction between fertility and fecundity. “Fertility” refers to conception. “Fecundity” refers to live birth. It is possible to be fertile but not fecund (which would be reflected, for example, in conceptions followed by miscarriages). However, when data is collected on this, these are often conflated. In fact, in most of the data I’ll cover below, we’re actually talking about fecundity rather than fertility. Data on conceptions is just more difficult to collect in large surveys than data on births.

How common is secondary infertility? 

This is a complicated question to answer with data. Ideally, it would be addressed as follows. You’d start with a large cohort of couples who are trying to conceive. You’d follow them over time. Some of them would be unable to conceive initially; this would give you an estimate of the rate of primary infertility. Some would be able to conceive a first child but then would be unable to conceive a second child. Ideally, you’d limit your analysis in the second case to those who tried to conceive a second child.

Even this “ideal” approach is challenging. For example: couples who had an easier time conceiving a first child may be more likely to try for a second child, in which case the share of people who would experience secondary infertility if everyone tried for a second kid would be underestimated.

In practice, we do not generally have prospective data of this type. Instead, researchers use surveys in which couples are asked about their desire for more children, and where fertility histories are available. Globally, a huge number of these surveys exist. This paper summarizes data from 277 surveys across the world. The authors calculate a rate of primary infertility — measured as childlessness among couples who express a desire for children, are not using contraception, and have been together for at least five years. And they calculate a rate of secondary infertility — measured as a lack of additional children among couples with at least one prior birth who express a desire for more children, are not using contraception, and for whom it’s been at least five years since the last child.

(The paper is an example of the confusing rhetoric of fertility versus fecundity; it talks about this as infertility, but the measurement is actually fecundity.)

In these data, the primary infertility rate is low: about 2%. The secondary infertility rate is much higher, about 10%, but that is a bit misleading. For women ages 20 to 24, the secondary infertility rate was only 2.6% (almost exactly the same as the primary infertility rate). For women in their 40s, it was 25%.

In a smaller sample but closer to home, one survey of about 4,000 American college graduates concluded that the primary infertility rate was 3.1%, with a secondary infertility rate of 14%.

What this data suggests is that secondary infertility may actually be slightly more common than primary infertility (this is echoed in other studies). A lot of it seems to be about age. As women age, fertility (and fecundity) decline. When we look at the multi-country study above, for the youngest age group, secondary infertility occurs at approximately the same rate as primary infertility. The fact that the overall average is higher seems to reflect the fact that it includes, on average, an older group of people.

Are there factors that increase the risk of secondary infertility?

Other than age, are there other risk factors here? More specifically, are there risk factors beyond those for primary infertility?

Many of the risk factors are the same. And, on average, if you had a difficult time getting pregnant the first time, it is informative about later pregnancies. This correlation isn’t perfect! Plenty of people struggle with a first pregnancy and find themselves unexpectedly pregnant a second time. However, it may be helpful to think of fertility on a continuum. The further you are along the continuum, the more likely you are to get pregnant in any given time frame.

If it took a long time to get pregnant the first time, that suggests something about your underlying fertility (it could just be bad luck, but it’s more likely it would take longer if your overall fertility is lower).

It is also possible that complications during an earlier childbirth — particular issues with the placenta, for example, or multiple cesarean sections — could make it more difficult to conceive or carry a pregnancy. This would be something to discuss with your doctor if you had complications the first time.

What is the treatment for secondary infertility? 

Secondary infertility is treated in the same way as primary infertility. This means a range of approaches, from medications like Clomid that spur egg production, to sperm evaluations, to IVF. There isn’t much good data on how effective these methods are in secondary versus primary infertility. Again, age is a complicated confound here. These approaches also decline somewhat in their success rates with age. If you’re facing this issue, your fertility specialist will be your best resource.

The bottom line

In my writing on pregnancy and parenting, one thing I have found very consistently is that when a concern or condition is not discussed publicly, people often fail to get help when they need it. Pelvic floor issues come to mind — no one talks about it, so people often miss that there is help available.

Secondary infertility falls in this category. Despite the fact that it is common — likely even more common than primary infertility (also not enough discussed) — we rarely discuss or surface it. This leaves people to suffer in silence, and also to be more hesitant than they should be to raise the concern with their providers.

So: here’s the opportunity. If you’re struggling to conceive additional children, it’s not unusual. And treatment is there.

Resources

It’s National Infertility Awareness Week, and there are many ways to find support and get involved. Attend an eventshare your story, and learn more about RESOLVE’s mission to remove barriers for people who need help building their family. If you are experiencing primary or secondary infertility, their Get Help page is a great place to start. You are not alone.

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As of this week, 1 million copies of my books have been sold. This feels humbling and, frankly, unbelievable. I’m so thankful to those of you who’ve read and passed along your recommendations of the books.

When I wrote Expecting Better, I had no plan for all of this — I wrote that book because I felt compelled to write it, because it was the book I wanted to read. As I’ve come out with more books, and now ParentData, I am closer to seeing what I hope we can all create. That is: a world where everyone has access to reliable data, based on causal evidence, to make informed, confident decisions that work for their families.

I’m so grateful you’re all here as a part of this, and I want to thank you! If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to sign up for full access to ParentData, this is it. ⭐️ Comment “Link” for a DM with a discount code for 20% off of a new monthly or annual subscription to ParentData!

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Just eat your Cheerios and move on.

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The AAP’s guidelines recommend sleeping in the same room as your baby “ideally for the first six months.” However, the risk of SIDS is dramatically lower after four months, and the evidence in favor of the protective effect of room sharing is quite weak (both overall and even more so after four months). There is also growing evidence that infants who sleep in their own room by four months sleep better at four months, better at nine months, and even better at 30 months.

With this in mind, it’s worth asking why this recommendation continues at all — or at least why the AAP doesn’t push it back to four months. They say decreased arousals from sleep are linked to SIDS, which could mean that babies sleeping in their own room is risky. But this link is extremely indirect, and they do not show direct evidence to support it.

According to the data we have, parents should sleep in the same room as a baby for as long as it works for them! Sharing a room with a child may have negative impacts on both child and adult sleep. We should give families more help in navigating these trade-offs and making the decisions that work best for them.

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The AAP’s guidelines recommend sleeping in the same room as your baby “ideally for the first six months.” However, the risk of SIDS is dramatically lower after four months, and the evidence in favor of the protective effect of room sharing is quite weak (both overall and even more so after four months). There is also growing evidence that infants who sleep in their own room by four months sleep better at four months, better at nine months, and even better at 30 months.

With this in mind, it’s worth asking why this recommendation continues at all — or at least why the AAP doesn’t push it back to four months. They say decreased arousals from sleep are linked to SIDS, which could mean that babies sleeping in their own room is risky. But this link is extremely indirect, and they do not show direct evidence to support it.

According to the data we have, parents should sleep in the same room as a baby for as long as it works for them! Sharing a room with a child may have negative impacts on both child and adult sleep. We should give families more help in navigating these trade-offs and making the decisions that work best for them.

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It was an absolute pleasure to be featured on the @tamronhallshow! We talked about all things data-driven parenting and, in this clip, what I call the plague of secret parenting. To balance having a career and having a family, we can’t hide the fact that we’re parents. If mothers and fathers at the top can speak more openly about child-care obligations, it will help us all set a new precedent.

Watch the full segment at the link in my bio 🔗

#tamronhall #tamronhallshow #emilyoster #parentingsupport #workingparents
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