Resources for Trying to Conceive

Trying to conceive can be filled with ups and downs. It can feel like there’s an overwhelming amount of information that you’re meant to digest and make sound decisions with.

Curious about services for fertility tracking or fostering? Nervous about how to tell your child their donor story? In need of legal aid? We put together these resources to help you find the support and information you’re looking for.

This is a growing list, so please add a comment at the end to share additional resources that have been meaningful for you.

Infertility and fertility treatments

RESOLVE, The National Infertility Association: Committed to providing access to care, support, community, education, awareness, and advocacy for those struggling to build a family.
Resilient Sisterhood Project: An informational resource for Black women experiencing infertility.
New York State Paid Prenatal Leave Law: FAQ on the paid prenatal leave program for any privately employed pregnant New Yorker. Under this policy, you can receive an additional 20 hours of paid sick leave for prenatal care, including fertility treatments.

Donors and surrogates

Expecting.ai: A platform that connects intended parents with the right agency, surrogate, or donor for their family needs.
PregnantTogether donor template: A helpful guide to initiating conversations for asking someone to be your “known” or “directed” donor.
California Statutory Forms for Assisted Reproduction: A free contract for known sperm donors from the National Center for Lesbian Rights. For California residents only, but families in other states can use this as a reference.
Gay Parents To Be: Informational resource and support for LGBTQ+ fertility and family building.
Men Having Babies: This nonprofit organization provides surrogacy parenting advice and support for gay men globally.

Therapy, support, and education

FOLX Health: The largest health and wellness platform for LGBTQ+ people, providing support for gender-affirming care, mental health, therapy, primary care, sexual and reproductive health, fertility, and family building.
- How to Find a Trans-Competent Therapist: FOLX offers talk therapy in select states and guidance for finding transgender-affirming therapy.
Donor Conceived Community: A 501(c)(3) that offers support, education, and resources for donor-conceived people. This includes support groups for parents of donor-conceived children and many other resources that can be helpful on this journey.
How to Talk to Kids About Their Donor Conception Story: Age-appropriate tips for talking to your child about their conception story.
Queer Doula Network: An informational resource to find queer-affirming care, with a network of doulas and gestational workers.
RTZ HOPE: Provides support groups and workshops for LGBTQ+ parents who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss.
Free Mom Hugs: An organization that focuses on supporting and uplifting the LGBTQ+ community.

LGBTQ+ families

PregnantTogether community: A virtual support group for queer people and solo parents, from TTC through parenting.
Family Equality: Provides an ongoing list of organizations offering grants and financial assistance for LGBTQ+ families.
Rainbow Families: A grassroots nonprofit organization that provides education, resources, and support services for LGBTQ+ parents and families.

LGBTQ+ Family Law Attorney Directory: LGBT-friendly lawyers by state provided by the LGBT Family Law Institute, the LGBTQ+ Bar, and the National Center for Lesbian Rights.
Choosing a Provider FAQ sheet: An educational tool to help you choose the right provider and medical care team.
GLMA: Health Professionals Advancing LGBTQ+ Equality: A national organization committed to ensuring health equity for the LGBTQ+ community, as well as equality for LGBTQ+ health professionals in their work and learning environments. (Previously known as the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association.)
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory: A search engine to help people find an LGBTQ+-friendly medical provider and support.
Our Family Coalition: The leading LGBTQ+ family advocacy agency in the state of California.
PFLAG: The largest organization in the country dedicated to supporting, educating, and advocating for LGBTQ+ people and their families.
xHood: A safe space and community for queer Black people trying to build families and parent happy children.
Gays With Kids: Supporting gay, bi, and trans men throughout their fatherhood journey.