Amy Ma

Your comment resonated with me so much! When deciding whether to be a solo parent, after getting through the practical logistical can I remotely swing this questions, my main question I came back to what- which adventure do I want to try to take- having a child and experiencing that wild ride or not and experiencing the wild ride of continuing to grow and live my life myself. When framed that way- rather than trying to predict how I would feel being pregnant/having a kid, I tried to focus on which leap I wanted to take more, knowing neither holds any kind of certainty. In hindsight I’m elated I chose parenting because I love it, but I don’t think there is any way I could have known that for sure before I tried.

As another solo parent by choice I totally agree- I regularly tell my partnered parenting friends that they were so brave to have a baby with a partner (partly in jest, but seriously, navigating that transition and balance seems beautiful but hard!!)

I also used the 1000 Hours site/FB group for awhile. After eventually learning more about the founder and also getting disillusioned with the anti-science discourse of FB group I found “Get Yer Butts Outside” FB group which provided similar ideas/support but more in line with other of my values. if it’s working for you, great! Just wanted to share this resource in case some folks find 1000 hours end up being not for them.

This 100%! To me the post called for more boundaries and acceptance of however the child feels about it.