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I would not offer advice or even ask if they want advice unless they bring it up. This topic is a particularly good example – it is not as if they could be unaware either that sleep is important or that there are thousands of resources about different sleep training approaches out there. You may see them struggling but they may see themselves as crushing parenting on top of their full time jobs, and your offer of unsolicited advice, even if couched as an offer to offer, will necessarily appear as a criticism. IF they approach you first then I would ask how you can support them – and be prepared for the possibility that they may want only to vent that parenting is hard and not have you suggest solutions or point them to research.