abentley5

As another mom with ADHD, I can absolutely relate to all of this. First of all, it sounds like you’re a fantastic parent who obviously cares deeply for your kids, they’re so lucky to have you! & Furthermore, it is absolutely normal and not selfish to want to feel good in your body while being a parent.

Similarly to you, I need downtime (quiet, by myself) to recharge. That’s tricky between work, relationships/friendships not to mention kids! I’ve been working at creating more space & time for me to fill my cup. Whether that’s booking a solo exercise class or walk, listening to a podcast, reading a book etc. With the planning difficulties that can come hand in hand with ADHD it has taken some time but my husband and I are finally really starting to build that space for each other. Also, finding your village of people to help support when you really need time out is immensely helpful.

When I absolutely can’t find the time anywhere, and my brain is basically to the point of melting, I’ll make sure the kiddo is safe and I do 1 minute meditations my therapist suggested using an app called “one moment meditation”. It’s free and 60 seconds, which is great. It’s also really helpful between transitions, which is particularly challenging for me (Coming home from work, after a major tantrum etc.).

For the sensory issues, I also share that. My note is outsource where you can! Maybe your partner is in charge for that activity while you get some downtime. Or maybe there’s a class they can enroll in that would allow them to explore these things if you find it challenging but they clearly enjoy. There’s a ton of activities out there and I’m sure there are things you all can enjoy that is not going to empty your cup completely.

You got this! XO