CaitlinA

So agree! Our daycare taught us when she hits to redirect it to ‘gentle’ and have her pet instead of hit. That has been super successful for us!

So we’re doing the count to 3 and then time out in the corner where I have to stand there and keep her on there. It’s been relatively successful. However, I will say, I find these years VERY difficult. My daughter is testing every boundary. Hang in there!

I can do sympathize with this woe. It’s only 2 for me, but yea I feel like I’m stretched too thin and everything is suffering.

I agree with most of this though I will say I don’t like other people’s kids. So I think taking care of other people’s kids would discourage me, but I love my kids haha.

So I totally get your whole my friends who have babies seem more depressed. I had my first at 31 and my second at 33. It is hard. I had a great life. There are occasionally times I miss all of the freedom I had before having kids. That being said, I desperately wanted children, and I wouldn’t trade this life for anything. I pay for a little more help so sometimes I get more time to myself, but I adore my children and I love getting to be their mother. That being said, it’s not for everyone. So you’ll know best, but wanted to share my experience. Though I often look run down and less happy, I’m much happier with my life with kids than I was without them.

I had a star named for my son also. I also had a ring made with his birthstone and birthday. I don’t know why these felt like the things to do, but they did bring me comfort. I now have 2 rings for my birth children as well.

After going through a failed adoption 3 days before his birth, I really needed people not to ask me about it because I just couldn’t talk about it at the time. Unfortunately I think people took that to mean I didn’t need their support, and I am a strong person that can generally handle things on my own, but as others have said, I wish people had just been there to make sure I was eating and showering and just generally surviving. Everyone just acting like it never happened almost made it worse.