Carly Woollard

I don’t have direct experience with pregnancy loss, but I lost my husband when he was 29 years old, so I unfortunately do have experience with grief, and the big takeaways from processing grief is that there is no right thing to say or do – so don’t put it on your shoulders to “fix” it (and honestly, the things people say to try to make you feel better or “fix” it typically end up being the worst things to say). The most impactful thing for me in the aftermath was just having people be there with me, and allowing me to sit in my grief and talk about it and not try to hide it. It is great to step in and do chores when they don’t have the energy to cook or clean or fill up the car with gas – all without asking, just doing (unless they specifically ask you not to). And finally, remember this is not something that will ever be forgotten – keep saying his name, keep remembering the anniversary and due date even years out. The pain becomes bearable with time but never disappears, and allowing your sister and her husband to remember their little boy years later is so important