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I like what one commenter said about asking if there are ways you can support them. BUT. As a co-sleeper and attachment parent, I fully support the reasons behind why they have chosen to contact nap. That said – when it comes to basically any kind of advice – my best advice is to not give it…. unless it’s specifically asked for. Parents generally read a good bit of information these days and and parenting in a much more informed way than arguably any other generation of parents before us. Unless it is a safety issue, advice is not generally ever wanted and feels infantilizing to the child. I think for the advice giver, it usually comes more from a place of wanting to be helpful but also feeling (even if not fully recognized internally) a sense of your way being superior. If parents want help or advice, they will ask for it. Otherwise, they’re experiencing the “natural consequences” of their approaches to sleep hygiene, and if that’s not sufficient to move them to ask for advice, or seek ideas from trusted sources they read parenting advice from…. then unsolicited advice is surely just going to be met with annoyance — even if they don’t tell you. Just accept that the best way to have a wonderful relationship with parents and children, is just to support their decisions and leave your opinions at the door.