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YASS! And to replying specifically to OP, though I already parented this way despite being an American, “bringing up bebe” book is a good resource I think, was recommended to me and heard many recommendations for it

Wow how sad. I can tell you I’ve experienced both sides. I grew up with my mother telling me kids are the worst thing to ever happen to you. Let me tell you, that sh*t lasts with children all throughout their lives. And, as told to me by everyone else, I was an easy child even though my mother said I was always very defiant. Then my mother wanted desperately to have grandchildren. Oh the irony. Well despite my mothers warnings I did have a child and she’s the best thing to ever happen to me. Despite my mothers warnings, damn. It’s not that bad. Is it hard? Especially the baby stage, hell yes. And she was an easy baby. But the good times outweighed the bad. Easily. And then in todays age.. I don’t get it. So many babies and kids are glued to screens making parenthood an even simpler piece of cake. And through my motherhood experience I am learning, though there is some inevitable’s in parenthood, parenthood is what you make of it. Theres SOO MUCH fear mongering around motherhood. I see only two sides, the absolute sugar coating of you will fall in love the second you see this purple wet thing that looks like and alien coming out of you, and breastfeeding is this magical thing to, breastfeeding is the hardest thing, and if you don’t fall instantly in love, oh you must have PPD. The internet and social media can be your worst weapon or your greatest source of information. Any way you CHOOSE to parent, there are tons of resources at your fingertips and books to help you. Overall I say: eh it’s not so bad.

Eeesh that sounds completely understandable that you are concerned. I look at it this way: is the stress the grandparents are causing worth the “stress-less” child free time? For me personally who is not close with her mother, the answer for me is “no”. It would be far more stressful to leave my child with my mother than to be with my child and to have a night free away from her. I MAY feel different if I had multiple kids but maybe not. Anyone taking care of your child should do so with the intentions of causing me less stress not more. And if you are out to cause more stress as this grandmother seems out to do, you don’t need to be in our lives as much. Your child can still see their granparents and have a relationship with them. Will it be different? Yes. But it can still be great.