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When I was growing up I had a grandparent who, when charged with looking after my brother and I, would take us to a local bar and give us money to buy potato chips and play the slot machines while he socialized with his friends. Certainly not something my church-going “almond mom” approved of. However she let it happen because she saw the value in us building relationships with that generation and experiencing life outside of our middle class bubble. Instead she would raise conversations with us at home about the harm of gambling and excessive drinking. In that way we were able to anchor our experiences with this grandparent in our own family values.

My brother and I turned out fine, neither of us are gamblers or alcoholics. Likewise I’m sure your child won’t turn into an overweight couch potato on account of a few visits with grandma.

I’d take Elsa’s advice on this one and let it go 😉