HartfordRachel

I am so sorry for your family’s loss. When my cousin experienced this, I was also pregnant. My cousin was unable to see me or my son for over a year. While the specifics of that situation do not apply to your situation, one thing I did that I know helped was just continued to reach out to her, with no expectation of a response. Every month or so I just sent her a text saying I was thinking of her, and remembering her baby, and would be here for her whenever she was ready or whenever she needed me. I imagine your sister will go through times of reaching out and will go through times of withdrawing. I think that continuing to reach out to her during the withdrawal times, as long as you expect nothing from her, is really important. I also put the date of the loss in my calendar with a reminder every year. Now I always text my cousins to tell them I am thinking of them and remembering their baby. It is a small thing, but I know it means a lot to them. Sending love to your family.