JennJayFay

Maternal grandparent here: I try hard to listen to and follow the requirements of my grandchild’s parents. I know they are knowledgable of more current parenting and child dev info than I am with my 30 & 20 yr old kids. And I count myself lucky to have time with my grandchild so want them to know I respect them. If I disagree with anything I will speak up at an approriate time but follow their decision. All that said, I dont think you should forsake precious reset time with your wife to avoid your children staying with overindulgent grandparents. But the points you raise are serious – who wants non-stop TV for their kids nor should they miss school, even kindergarten, unless for some special outing. Grandparents are enriching or can be. I think there needs to be a serious discussion to set the stage for the future many years (after you absolutely ensure that your wife and you are on the same page). So sorry you have this issue.