JT

I am a mom with ADHD to a nearly 20 month old daughter. I love my daughter and would do anything for her but completely need to be alone sometimes, and like you systems really help me. I understand how you feel. You’re not alone.

Some things I do..(1) I remind my self that alone time not only serves me well to recharge but also serves everyone else in my life. If I don’t have time to myself to decompress, I can’t function. (2) Sometimes this alone time means waking up early so I can drink my coffee in peace and work out so I feel ready to tackle the day. (3) If you have a partner, extended family member/grandparent or nanny/babysitter that can help you let them help you at set I intervals, so you can recharge (4) Let your kid play with the loud toys when you’re not with them or for limited times when you are with them. (5) Alarms and reminders on my phone help keep me on tract, because I’ll get distracted or hyper focused on something and forget what I’m doing.

I wish I had more mom friends…but I do what I feel comfortable when I do, and it’s slowly starting to work. Sometimes I push myself to go to the play date, and I usually feel better after.

I hope this helps!