NJMama2023

I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and it was horrible. Keep checking in – weeks and months afterwards. No one prepares you for how long the grieving can last. Be aware of holidays that may make your sister think of her lost child. I was surprised that seeing other friends’ kids in Halloween costumes on social media and getting family Christmas cards upset me. Mark your calendar for her original due date and loss date – and reach out to her each year in remembrance – it will mean so much. For right now, meals and checking in with a simple text will mean the most. I also encourage you, your sister and family to follow pregnancy loss accounts on Instagram. They post very helpful things like what NOT to say and how to help instead.