Momof2

I appreciate the softened approach!! Never my strong suit. Agree with you entirely.

Yes, boundaries are important but in having kids, you have a responsibility to take care of them and raise them in the way you deem fit. Clearly if this in-law situation is “too much” for them to handle, the boundary should be set in not taking the damn trip. Or take the trip and know that the kid(s) won’t have the same at-home experience that the parents prefer. This is really simple.

Right? What a travesty to have healthy parents/in-laws to watch your little kids while you hang out alone on a beach. If the OP feels so strongly about less sugary snacks (which, by the way, aren’t “bad” – no food is bad) and screen time – then check the privilege.

To be clear: having overnight childcare is insanely privileged. And taking a vacation compounds that privilege. While indulgent in-laws isn’t what you want – maybe take a step back and realize how dang lucky you are to have these options at your disposal. If you still can’t find satisfaction, then maybe cancel that trip.