TessaM

I know nothing about data but wanted to say my first pregnancy ended in stillbirth at 35+5, cause unknown but best guess a cord accident. My MFM supported/recommended a 37 week induction for subsequent pregnancies. Our later daughters were both born at 37+2. One needed NICU time, one didn’t. Both are great now. No regrets – I was so anxious at that point, and I couldn’t shake the worry about how I’d feel if something went wrong again after 37. Best of luck in whatever you decide, and so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your sister. Our first daughter was stillborn at 36 weeks. It was terrible, and it always will be, though it does get easier. I most appreciated the friends who talked about her, acknowledged my experience, and didn’t try to ignore it or brush it off as a miscarriage/“just” a pregnancy loss (someone told me we’d have more kids – not helpful). Fewer people bring it up now that it’s been four years and I really appreciate those who do. Anniversaries are hard, so remembering the anniversary helps. And if she goes on to have more pregnancies, recognizing that they are very anxiety producing and traumatic for her. Personally, finding other people to talk to who had experienced the same thing and getting a puppy really helped me, through the grief and future pregnancies. We now have two living daughters that I’m so grateful for, and that helps but doesn’t completely minimize the grief of our first. Best of luck to your whole family.