Melanie

Mother’s Day makes me resentful because we always end up doing something for/with my MIL which means I don’t get to relax and it’s frustrating because I’m the one who is knee deep in parenting right now. Why do we have to go honor the woman who barely ever helps with her grandkids while I’m the who spends every waking moment with two toddlers. When I’m a grandma I’m going to make sure my daughter and DIL know that this day is about them. They should do what they want instead of thinking about me.

I’ve had these moments too. My son gets super whiny and clingy right before he shows any symptoms of being sick and a couple times I was like “what’s wrong with you, knock it off”. It took me a couple times of this happening and me feeling awful to learn. Parenting is like anything, We have to learn from past experiences. Next time I bet you’ll pick up on it faster. We’ve all been there.

My opinion is that when you’re asking yourself if you should have kids if the answer isn’t “hell yes” it’s probably a “no”. I think my opinion differs from most other people on here so maybe I’m wrong. I really wanted to be a mom and it is so much harder than I thought. I’m a 35 stay-at-home mom and have a 2 and 4 year old and damn, most days are challenging. There is so much whining and crying and I am needed so much. Maybe it’s just the chapter we’re in but there are a lot of days I question my choices and I really wanted this. I can’t imagine if I hadn’t been 100% all-in. Anyway, lots of good opinions on here, I hope you find your answer and peace in your heart.