Nina

Don’t! It’s not your job its your parter’s job. This is kin-keeping and I hate when people expect that from women.

My husband: “So what do you want to do for mothers day?” Me: “Not making a decision!” He (brain braking): “Uhm ok so can you then tell me what you don’t like?” Me: “Just don’t ask me any questions 😂” He: “Ok” … lets see how long he can last.

My relationship to mothers day is also weird. My mom, the former east German communist at heart hated that day! We didnt celebrate it, we celebrated international women’s day. She didnt want to be reduced to “just a mother” and she wanted to celebrate women in general not just mothers. I think in Europe this day is not celebrated that much anyway.

Fast forward, I married an American. He always goes strong celebrating it with his mom and now also me. I came to terms with it because I don’t say no to a day of pempering but I’m also torn about how to talk about this with my daughter. I still think its a weird day, invented by the flower and card industry and I dont want her to think she has to be a mother to be celebrated as a woman.

Wow sorry for thag total brain dump 😂

First of all: Its a phase, it will pass and nearly every child goes through it. Second: You can’t “discipline” a two year old. You don’t really punish people for having emotions either. The tantrum itself is already stressful enough for them. All you can do is make sure they are safe, can’t hurt themselves or destroy things, and help them getting through it. The only thing I would not do is give in. Our daughter sometimes screemed for 1h because she didnt get what she want. She still didnt get it but we were there with her. We talked about it afterwards and I do feel she learnt from each. Kids dont enjoy tantrums either 😂