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I like the tactics implemented in the book Hunt, Gather, Parent. Specifically, don’t add attention / drama to the situation, remain calm (not angry – which can be the hardest part when they’re melting down), and let them have space while still letting them know you’re there for them. Essentially, let it pass. I prefer to do things though pre tantrum to hopefully avert one if I see one coming, and focus more energy on that piece, rather than waiting for a tantrum to hit and then figuring out a way how to calm the child down. Pre tantrum, I try to remain calm but firm when setting the boundaries (again, don’t give in to the drama and model calm), and try to remind myself that my logical reasoning may not resonate with their little illogical brains just yet – so I try out alternative play, distractions, etc when I see it coming to a push or pull crisis.