Mom in NY

Sounds awful. I’m so frustrated for you! However, I think you need to go with your gut here. If this were my family, my child would not be left alone with the in-laws and would certainly never sleep over. I recommend reading this book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself.

Is budgeting for childcare while on vacation within your budget? I’d rather pay someone to take care of my child in the way I see fit than deal with this dysfunction. Good luck to you.