How To Travel With Kids

Emily Oster

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Emily Oster

How To Travel With Kids

Advice for safer, smoother, and more enjoyable vacations

Emily Oster

8 min Read

It’s the summer, which for many people means travel. Air travel, car travel, boat travel. Travel with friends, travel with kids, travel alone.

For many people — and I include myself in this — the experience of travel is one of the most significant changes post-children. Jesse and I traveled a lot on our own before kids. I’m not a very relaxed traveler (or person), but still, vacation pre-children usually manages to be somewhat chill and, more than that, somewhat flexible. 

Traveling with kids is just different. It’s a trip, but often less of a vacation. It can be exhausting and occasionally nerve-racking. My brother just finished telling me a story about spilling their last bottle of formula all over the baby with five hours left in a flight. It’s true that, as an adult, you can sometimes run out of food on the plane. But… it’s not the same. 

On the other hand! It’s not all negative, by a long shot. Travel with my kids, especially as they are a bit older, is a joy. And many of my happiest memories from childhood are from travel, even from travel mishaps. My family still talks about the time Stephen and I vomited on ourselves in the car while baby John wailed because he had roseola. My parents pulled over and mom threw all of our clothes away. I’m sure it was a bad afternoon for her, but it got a lot of family mileage.

What I am saying is: it’s a balance. Travel with kids can be great, but it deserves more careful thought and planning than without them.  

First today, a brief discussion of risks. Second, some thoughts on planning. And my personal worst parent travel story.  

Risks for Traveling With Children

I’m going to run through some specific questions below, but we can start with the big picture. The risks to traveling are largely about disruptions in routine, lack of sleep, and illness. A reasonable way to structure any question, then, is to ask which of these apply and how important they are. 

When is it safe to travel with a baby?

A very young infant has little routine and will generally sleep (whether the way you want them to or not, they do sleep). The big worry with infants is illness. I’ve written more extensively about this before (see post here). Travel means, on average, more illness exposure. Airplanes, crowded spaces, family members, etc., etc. Below a certain age — typically 60 days and as much as 90 — there is a greater risk of serious illness. And because of this greater risk, the medical system has a larger response. For a four-week-old baby presenting with a fever — any fever, even if you are quite confident it’s a viral infection — hospitals will do a spinal tap to rule out bacterial infection. This is safe and important, but it’s also scary and traumatic. 

If possible, it is best to wait to travel with a baby until you are out of this window, typically after eight weeks or so.   

A variant on this question is: Is it better to drive with a baby than fly? The fact is that it’s the people you are seeing who are likely to be the biggest risks, not so much the airplane, especially with a small baby who isn’t going to be touching and licking things. So if you do need to travel, flying isn’t obviously worse. 

What are the overall risks to traveling with kids?

As above: disruption and illness. For older kids, illness is a part of life, but obviously it’s not something we welcome. Disruption — it depends on the trip. A weeklong trip to grandma’s that’s an hour’s drive away may be lower disruption than a cross-country flight to visit four cities in five days. 

Are there specific risks to international travel? 

The two possible additional considerations with international travel are (1) particular illnesses and (2) jet lag.  

On the illness front: For some set of places you might travel, you’ll need additional vaccinations for diseases that we do not typically get in the U.S. Depending on where you’re going, you want to pay close attention here. 

Jet lag: This relates to the issue of sleep disruption mentioned above. Kids actually tend to adapt better than adults to a new time zone, because they’re more responsive to light. But jet lag can mess with sleep on both ends. Certainly some parents report it’s very difficult to get back to a good sleep schedule post-trip. One thing that can help is melatonin. There’s good evidence that it improves the jet lag experience. 

What about COVID? Still a concern? 

COVID cases are still occurring. Thankfully, with vaccinations and infection-derived immunity (and both), serious illness is becoming much less common. For most people, COVID will present at this point like other respiratory viruses. This fact is reflected in the end of the COVID state of emergency. It makes sense to think about COVID as you’d think about other illnesses in this case; it’s a risk, but not one that needs special concern. 

Advice for Traveling With Children

Taking the above all together: by and large, it is safe to travel with children. But should you? Maybe! It can be great; it can be exhausting and stressful. It’s usually all of those things. My advice is that it will be better with just two, relatively simple, pieces of advanced planning. 

  • Be clear on the purpose of the trip. Are you taking this trip so your kids can see their cousins, or grandparents? Is the goal to expose them to another culture? Is the goal to bond as a family? Have you and your partner always wanted to enjoy Paris, and now is the chance?

There are two reasons this is important. First, you can use it as a reminder in a tough moment. The goal of the trip is rarely to have everything go predictably and smoothly all the time. When it doesn’t, it’s useful to remind yourself, hey, our goal here is to hang out with family — and the kids are doing that, even if you’re spending the day on the phone with the airline about why your luggage is in another city. 

Second: Sometimes if you put it like this, it will reveal that you shouldn’t go, or not in that configuration. If your goal is to enjoy a romantic trip to Paris, you will probably not get to have that with your kids. It might be better to leave them behind.

  • Plan it out. I am generally a big fan, in the day-to-day, of having a schedule. Often, before kids, vacation is a chance to kind of move away from that — to have flexibility. Take a long lunch. Have a nap whenever. This can be more challenging with kids, and often, you may be able to get more relaxed if you plan out in advance how the day is going to look. 

This planning is also an opportunity to plan out solo adult time, either together or separately, if you’re traveling with a partner. 

That’s it! At least from me. I am going to end here with one of my worst travel experiences with a child.  

When Penelope was four months old, we went to Spain with my entire family. In retrospect, this was ill-advised for a number of reasons (to give my spouse credit, he said this was a mistake before we decided to go, so I guess it wasn’t really “in retrospect” for him. Anyway). I was nursing Penelope, and pumping, and brought along the pump so I could pump milk and be away from her occasionally for, like, a walk. What I did not understand was that if you want to use a breast pump in Europe (at least in 2011), you need not only a plug adapter to change the plug shape but also a plug converter to change the voltage. Otherwise, when you plug your breast pump in and turn it on, it will go “pump pump pump” and then die and start to smoke. Which is what happened to me. It made for a long week.  

After that, we got a lot of converters. I guess that’s the lesson.

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The AAP’s guidelines recommend sleeping in the same room as your baby “ideally for the first six months.” However, the risk of SIDS is dramatically lower after four months, and the evidence in favor of the protective effect of room sharing is quite weak (both overall and even more so after four months). There is also growing evidence that infants who sleep in their own room by four months sleep better at four months, better at nine months, and even better at 30 months.

With this in mind, it’s worth asking why this recommendation continues at all — or at least why the AAP doesn’t push it back to four months. They say decreased arousals from sleep are linked to SIDS, which could mean that babies sleeping in their own room is risky. But this link is extremely indirect, and they do not show direct evidence to support it.

According to the data we have, parents should sleep in the same room as a baby for as long as it works for them! Sharing a room with a child may have negative impacts on both child and adult sleep. We should give families more help in navigating these trade-offs and making the decisions that work best for them.

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Breastfeeding is often difficult, especially at the start. For babies with tongue ties, many infants (and their moms) struggle to get the hang of a good latch. This can lead to painful nipples and to inefficient feeding, and then low weight gain.

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Breastfeeding is often difficult, especially at the start. For babies with tongue ties, many infants (and their moms) struggle to get the hang of a good latch. This can lead to painful nipples and to inefficient feeding, and then low weight gain.

So what does the data say about the increasingly common practice of cutting tongue-ties in infants to improve breastfeeding success? Several weeks ago, @nytimes published a long and quite scary article on this topic.

After diving into the data, here is what I found. There is limited evidence that frenotomy procedures improve breastfeeding efficacy and the harms of the procedure are minimal. Many women do report that it alleviates pain and helps them with breastfeeding. However, it should not be a first-line treatment for breastfeeding problems.

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Tag a friend who needs to hear this 💛 For many choices in parenting, there is no one right answer. We can use research and data to make informed decisions, but ultimately, it won’t tell you what to do. Only you can decide what will be best for your kids and your family.

I’m here to remind you to take a deep breath and trust yourself. I’ll be here to support you along the way. 

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Tag a friend who needs to hear this 💛 For many choices in parenting, there is no one right answer. We can use research and data to make informed decisions, but ultimately, it won’t tell you what to do. Only you can decide what will be best for your kids and your family.

I’m here to remind you to take a deep breath and trust yourself. I’ll be here to support you along the way.

Thank you to everyone who submitted videos, including:
@sarah.consoli
@jess_lynn627
@nicolevandenwills
@thedrblair
@ncbenedict29
@haleycimini
@iamkellysnodgrass
@calesse_smith
@garnet__gordon
@jencoopgaiser87
@danigirl18c
@jamielundergreen
@carly_comber
@thecelebratingmama
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