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Roundup: Kids and Food

Reading on picky eaters, "healthy" eating, and more

Emily Oster

3 min Read

What’s a Roundup? There are big parenting and pregnancy topics — things like diet in pregnancy or baby sleep — that I write about over and over. I also spend a lot of time reading about them in other sources. Reader questions come in all the time, and I find myself pointing people back to previous writing and wishing I had a way to pull it all together.

These posts do that! They’re a big-picture reference, with links, on a topic of interest. Today: kids and food. 

What are the big questions?

There are many questions on food, but I’d pull out three big ones.

Question 1: What is a healthy diet? This is obviously a much broader question than I can cover in my writing, but I think it’s often our starting point. For kids, yes, but also for adults. In the broadest terms, how should we be eating?

The second two are more granular on kids’ eating.

Question 2: What’s the right way to introduce food, and are there any pitfalls to avoid or things I should definitely do?

Question 3: I’ve got a toddler or older kid. How do I encourage them to, say, eat vegetables? Or more generally to adhere to a diet I have decided on?

I haven’t fully answered all these questions (not close! no one has!), but I think they’re useful to write down to help organize all of our thinking. I’ve written some on each, and so have others. Check it out below.

Writing from me

On the overarching question of a healthy diet:

(The spoiler alert here is that our data on what constitutes a healthy diet is not very good, and we really do not know much. These posts are mostly about why food data is bad, not what makes you healthy.)

On food introduction:

On picky kids:

  • Kids, Food, and Picky Eating. TL;DR: Do not feel bad about it, and here are some tips.
  • On the issue of older kids and vegetables, The Family Firm really dives into the literature suggesting that, basically, if you try giving them veggies with dip, it might improve their liking of them. No newsletter on this yet, but I’m sure it’s coming.

Other writers and resources

  • Our family is obsessed with America’s Test Kitchen Kids, including this cookbook and this baking book.
  • Virginia Sole-Smith has a Substack (get it here) all about kids and food. I interviewed her here, and I love her perspective.
  • On the general question of healthy diet and food, I am a fan of Aaron Carroll’s great book The Bad Food Bible.
  • Many people recommend — and I concur — Feeding Littles as a resource. Of note is its normalization of the fact that toddlers are less hungry and less adventurous about food than babies.

I hope this is helpful!

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It has been a busy summer for the team at ParentData. I’d love to take a moment here to celebrate the 400k milestone. As I’ve said before, it’s more important than ever to put good data in the hands of parents. 

Share this post with a friend who could use a little more data, and a little less parenting overwhelm. 

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Milestones. We celebrate them in pregnancy, in parenting, and they’re a fun thing to celebrate at work too. Just a couple years ago I couldn’t have foreseen what this community would grow into. Today, there are over 400,000 of you here—asking questions, making others feel seen wherever they may be in their journey, and sharing information that supports data > panic.

It has been a busy summer for the team at ParentData. I’d love to take a moment here to celebrate the 400k milestone. As I’ve said before, it’s more important than ever to put good data in the hands of parents.

Share this post with a friend who could use a little more data, and a little less parenting overwhelm.

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Comment “link” for an article with other tools to help you navigate risk and uncertainty.

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Do any of these findings surprise you? Let us know in the comments!

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✈️ A JAMA Pediatrics paper estimates about 0.4 child air crash deaths per year might be prevented in the U.S. with car seats
✈️ Cars are far more dangerous than airplanes! The same JAMA paper suggests that if 5% to 10% of families switched to driving, then we would expect more total deaths as a result of this policy.

If you want to buy a seat for your lap infant, or bring a car seat for an older child, by all means do so! But the additional protection based on the numbers is extremely small.

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Note: Survey data came from the ParentData audience and users of the Nanit sleep monitor system. Both audiences skew higher-education and higher-income than the average, and mostly have younger children. The final sample is 14,919 children. For more insights on our respondents, read the full article.

SLEEP DATA 💤 PART 2: Let’s talk about naps. Comment “Link” for an article on what we learned about daytime sleep!

The first three months of life are a chaotic combination of irregular napping, many naps, and a few brave or lucky souls who appear to have already arrived at a two-to-three nap schedule. Over the next few months, the naps consolidate to three and then to two. By the 10-to-12-month period, a very large share of kids are napping a consistent two naps per day. Over the period between 12 and 18 months, this shifts toward one nap. And then sometime in the range of 3 to 5 years, naps are dropped. What I think is perhaps most useful about this graph is it gives a lot of color to the average napping ages that we often hear.

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Head to the newsletter for more and stay tuned for part two next week on naps! 🌙

#parentdata #emilyoster #childsleep #babysleep #parentingcommunity

SLEEP DATA 💤 We asked you all about your kids’ sleep—and got nearly 15,000 survey responses to better understand kids’ sleep patterns. Comment “Link” for an article that breaks down our findings!

This graph shows sleeping location by age. You’ll notice that for the first three months, most kids are in their own sleeping location in a parent’s room. Then, over the first year, this switches toward their own room. As kids age, sharing a room with a sibling becomes more common.

Head to the newsletter for more and stay tuned for part two next week on naps! 🌙

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Comment “Link” to subscribe to ParentData with Emily Oster, joined by some excellent guests.

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