Is Day Care Bad for Children?

Emily Oster

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Is Day Care Bad for Children?

What the research really says

Emily Oster

10 min Read

Child care choices always rank high in parent discussion and anxiety. Does day care generate behavior problems? Is a nanny dangerous? There are calls, often but not always from the political right, for more women to stay home with their children. I have heard, more than once, the view that “Of course it’s fine to work, but you should be willing to acknowledge this is bad for your children.” (I’m not.)

There are many aspects to these questions; too many for one post. But one claim that has come up more recently is the idea that “research says” that day care is bad for children. More often than not, this is followed by a discussion of one particular study, from Canada. Instagram DMs and emails appear with frequency — “Is this true?” or, more commonly, “This made me feel terrible.”

Today I’ll talk about that one study, but I want to start by talking at more length about the bigger picture in this literature. It’s long and technical, and … that’s kind of my point. Let’s go!

The literature

No study lives alone. Especially not on a topic people care about, which is definitely true of this one. There are many, many studies on child care and early childhood education on childhood outcomes.

The simplest way to look at the impact of child care on child outcomes is to get data on child care choices and later child outcomes, and compare.

The largest and best-known study to do this is one out of the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, which I will just call the NICHD study. I talk at length about this in Cribsheet (where I also cover how to think about child care choices more holistically). This study followed roughly 1,000 children over time and was designed to evaluate the impacts of various types of child care on child development.

The authors do a number of things with this data. One is that they compare children in center-based child care centers to those with other arrangements — family members or babysitters. When they do this, they find that use of child care is associated with slightly higher cognitive outcomes for enrollment after 18 months, and slightly lower before 18 months. Overall — as in, if the child was enrolled for the entire period — the impact on cognitive outcomes is positive. They find slightly negative outcomes on behavior, especially for lower-age enrollment. Both sets of effects are, again, fairly small and fade substantially or completely by later childhood.

The study also finds that higher-quality day care — as measured by whether providers are responsive to children, whether they read and talk to them, whether they hit them (this is very bad), and whether they respond to basic needs like diapering and feeding — is associated with better outcomes. This is not surprising. An important note is that when we say “high-quality day care” in a study like this, it doesn’t mean “fancy.” It’s about how the adults interact, not about whether the snacks are organic.

This study has a lot to recommend it, but it’s not perfect. The main concern with this study’s approach is that it is difficult to fully adjust for differences across families that might influence both child care choices and later child outcomes. This is a standard problem of correlation-versus-causation.

The most direct way to get around this would be a randomized controlled trial. That’s not feasible in this type of setting; few parents would agree to randomize their child care approach, for a number of reasons. However, a number of studies have emerged that use variation in policy as a kind of randomization. (For more on this type of study, check out this post from the early days of ParentData.)

The basic idea in any study of this type is that the change in policy will change behavior for otherwise similar individuals, so by comparing outcomes before and after, you can learn about the impact of the behavior.

There are two sources of policy variation that can be effectively used here.

First, researchers can do this by looking at variations in parental leave. There are a number of countries (not America, notably) that have changed their maternity leave policies over time. In some cases, this has meant extending leave from three or four months up to 11 months or more. When leave is extended in this way, use of early childhood child care declines. By comparing child outcomes before and after the leave extension, we can possibly learn something about child care impacts.

I talk about this literature in Cribsheet; generally, this work finds little or no impact of extending parental leave beyond four months on children (parental leave before four months is beneficial).

The second approach is to exploit changes in access to early childhood care or education. Many countries, states, or cities have, over time, expanded the provision of universal or close to universal early childhood education. This includes access to early-life child care and access to slightly later care, closer to pre-K.

The Quebec study — which I promise I will get to below — is in this literature. But the literature is very large. There are studies in Norway, Denmark, Germany, Italy, Chile, Boston, and Tennessee. There is a famous set of papers about the Head Start program. (For an excellent summary of this literature, I liked the introduction of this paper, which itself focuses on an early childhood program in Germany.)

As is always the case when you’ve got a lot of papers, it can be hard to summarize.

One clear finding from data in the U.S. is that high-quality pre-K programs — like Head Start and the program in Boston — can improve outcomes for kids, both in the short and long term. There is also some evidence that lower-quality pre-K, like a program that has been under some scrutiny in Tennessee, may not deliver those outcomes.

Across countries, there is more data on child care policies that focus on early childhood. The evidence here also has nuance. Data from Germany shows positive impacts on motor and socioemotional skills. Data from Chile finds some positive impacts, but maybe also some more negative impacts on adult-child interactions. A Norwegian program that generates more child care usage between 15 and 19 months improved later outcomes. On the flip side, there is a paper from Italy that suggests that attendance at child care dramatically lowers IQ. (For example: for the Italy paper, the effects in this paper are enormous, but I have some significant concerns about their first-stage graphs and their lack of a reduced-form graph on their regression discontinuity plots. This is a technical point.)

It’s hard to pull anything consistent out of these data, for a few reasons. First, this policy-based approach is good for causality, but it is a blunt instrument. We usually know very little about who is using child care, what the alternative child care arrangement was, or the details of the child care provided. Government-provided child care is likely to differ a lot in quality, and that’s generally unmeasured. Second, and somewhat more technically, in some of these cases I am more skeptical of the methods, for reasons that are rooted in my own work in this space.

If forced to summarize this, I think it would be fair to say that this data suggests that quality matters. Programs that appear to expand access to higher-quality child care are more positive than those that appear to expand access to lower-quality care. Closely related, when we enact policies that change child care choices, it matters what families move away from. If a government introduces a lower-quality but less expensive child care program and families move into that from a higher-quality program, that could have negative impacts on children.

In a sense, none of this is meaningfully different from the NICHD study I mentioned above. Quality matters. And overall, most of these effects are fairly small.

The Quebec study

Having this long lead-up to this one paper is important to me because it illustrates how much more complicated this is than could be covered in a 90-second Instagram reel or TikTok post. We’re talking about a huge academic literature, crossing many different disciplines, with probably hundreds of studies, and dozens of reasonably good ones, that do not always agree.

However, the study from Quebec is a part of this literature, so here are the details. Between 1997 and 2000, Quebec introduced a program that gave everyone access to highly subsidized child care at a low cost ($5 a day). The care was rolled out sequentially by age, starting with 5-year-olds and going down to infants. New centers were opened quite quickly, and use of child care expanded. In general, the centers were evaluated as relatively lower-quality, perhaps in part due to the rapid expansion. Children younger than 2 were typically served in home-based centers, and those older than 2 in center-based care.

A 2008 paper evaluates the short-term program impacts. Using an existing survey, the authors compare child outcomes — notably, child behavior outcomes — for children in Quebec versus those in the rest of Canada, looking before and after the program. What they find is that relative to changes in the rest of Canada, children in Quebec fare worse after the program in parent-reported aggression in particular. They are also more likely to have been sick recently (and more likely overall). Maternal employment, meanwhile, goes up.

A later follow-up paper shows limited effects on test scores but some continued evidence of changes in aggression and possibly criminal behavior for boys. These effects are all on the small side.

There are some good aspects of this paper: the policy change is large and well-defined, and there is comparable data for Quebec and the rest of Canada to analyze outcomes. The paper also has some limitations. The size of the impacts are somewhat difficult to evaluate. Statistically, the paper has relatively little power — although there are a lot of children, the study really just compares Quebec to the rest of Canada over time, and that’s a limited comparison.

This is one paper. It evaluates one policy, a rapid scale-up of relatively inexpensive child care. It is an interesting policy evaluation. But it’s one piece of the puzzle, and there are a number of reasons why it’s not clear how much we can learn about our own complicated child care overall from this single study of Quebec.

As a final note: This paper does echo what we see in a variety of other settings, which is that children in care with other kids get sick more than those who are not. They seem to get sick less when they’re older, but in the short term, this is frustrating.

The bottom line

I know, I know, you want the Instagram 90-second version.

I will go back to what I say in Cribsheet. Center-based child care may have slight downsides before 18 months and slight upsides after that. These impacts are small in either direction, and are likely outweighed by the other considerations that are important in your choice of child care. If you do choose center-based child care, quality matters. That doesn’t mean organic snacks or only wooden toys; it means caregivers who are attentive to the kids, and a safe environment.

Also, I want you to know that I think you’re doing a great job. My biggest frustration with so many of these panic headlines and panic reels is that they take people who were happy with how things are going and make them feel like bad parents. You are a good parent. Period.

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