Ana C

Just because something is hard, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it.
Moving to a new country is hard, running a marathon is hard, changing careers is hard, yet people do it.
Yes, having a kid is hard, and yes, it changes your life. You adjust. If you don’t have them for whatever reason – you don’t want or you end up not being able to. You also adjust.
Don’t base this decision on whether it’s going to take a toll on your life. It will. Base it on whether you want to do it anyway.
I am definitely more tired and potentially look depressed sometimes but every day I can’t believe my kid exists. I didn’t know I was ever capable of such pure love.
Both decisions have pros and cons. It’s not black and white. I miss my old life sometimes AND cannot imagine life without him. As Emily says: there’s no secret option C. Good luck either way!