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Oh I misread, haha. 19 month old, not 19 year old! I was like-wow!! But the rest of the comment still applies 😂

Damn, lot of wisdom coming from a 19 year old here! Thanks for your share. This is such awesome advice and you are so right about there being multiple reasons for unhappiness in couples with kids.

This is such a huge question and one it makes sense to struggle with! I encourage you to ask your friends; it varies but I know I often have honest conversations with my friends about the hard and great parts of parenting. I think it’s important to acknowledge there will be some regret whatever decision you make. I love my baby and being a parent, and sure, I miss my old life and freedom sometimes. What are your values as a person, and as a couple with your partner? Exploring this really helps figure out what’s important to you and what guides your life. I would also add there’s an excellent Instagram account and podcast called kidsorchildfree which explores this exact question and might help you decide, too.