Amk2016

I had a baby at 35 and was in a very similar headspace to you. We had a very enjoyable life with lots of travel, friends, and flexibility and were worried about giving that up. What we ultimately decided was that our activities were giving us diminishing returns compared to earlier in life, and that not making a decision was a decision to be childless so we went for it. I would say the first few months were harder than I expected and now that my kid is 6 months old it’s actually much more enjoyable than I expected. I assume we will have these ups and down continuously but we’re overall happy with our decision, and we enjoy brining her out, meeting up with friends, and many of the core things we enjoyed pre-child. I highly recommend the book The Baby Decision by Merle Bombardieri for helping to think through some of these trade offs.