alexjohnson2020

It’s difficult to so willingly change your life completely. Which kids do (99% in great ways). You asking this question though makes me think you should have a baby. The few people I know who don’t have kids have been adamant about not wanting kids – it was never a question.

Remember, the years go by very fast. Babies and toddlers are a lot of work, but also add so much more meaning and joy to your lives. One thing I always think about for people who choose not to have kids is that their later years will be quite lonely. I’m sure you’ll have friends, but friends will be busy with their children and grand children to a good degree. Having children will give you a full life. Also when you’re much older, children take care of you. Old people are wise- ask any elderly person about their favorite memories or what they treasure most in life. I’d be shocked if their answer wasn’t their children. And if they didn’t have children, was it their work? That’s a sad alternative.

Have you written out pros and cons of each choice? I imagine the cons being something like “limited freedom”, “kids are expensive” etc. My husband and I traveled extensively for 5 years before we had kids and I was nervous about babies limiting our freedom to travel as much. Now, I imagine not having my two children and I believe that all of the freedoms we had before kids would grow quite dull if we continued our same self absorbed life style for 40+ years and chose not to have children.

I also firmly believe that you regret the children you DONT have much more than the ones you do.

– a mom of two (3 yr old and 6 month old)