Annelies ATX

I love this question and the way that you’re considering the impact that having kids will have on your family. Baby time was REALLY hard for us. We have three kids, and it sometimes felt like we would have a baby FOREVER and that felt bleak and stressful. There were moments of joy. But I haven’t often felt like myself. As my kids get older, it gets better. The changes to the rhythms of life aren’t disruptive forever! I really love my kids as people and I’m excited that I get to know them for the rest of my life. I really love some of the changes in our lives and things I’ve learned about myself. Would do it again. And I always tell friends who are expecting their first baby that if they find having a baby to be really terrible it’s not their fault, and it gets better.