Jane

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I really appreciate the posing of the question as “can you think of a time someone has proffered an insight in a helpful way”! Im a Granny too who has wondered long about this, if its possible at all and if so, what ways actually are helpful.Contexts: 1) Ive been often in the home of son DIL and little ones, 4 and 2, since oldest was born -pandemic era, I was at least 3 days of childcare, sometimes more (many miles logged with sleeping baby on my body as parents had worked it out that way..more than one way to keep in shape as old person!), many after daycare pickups and sick days etc. Im happy to do this. It means I see a lot, some that hurts my heart as it seems parents are on constant overload, and then that impacts the kids. Tongue well bitten. Context 2- I was a parent in non internet era, info and insights were hard to come by. Our kids grandparents were loving but very hands off…in memory, which could be off, I was avid for additional perspectives! So its valuable to hear that that seems very much not welcomed in this era (is the difference the internet? ) Anyway, Im listening.Are there ways to offer useful insights, or is the only welcome thing to say (which I do) , how can I show up to be extra help? (for an example : I think its likely that kids would be sick less often and for less long if at first signs they were given ‘off’ day. Except for my currently minimal work schedule, its been clear Im available for that. But worse than useless to suggest it? Id really welcome -see I do want this! -insights. Thanks to all)