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I wanted to hear “I took care of ____.” So reassuring to know that person (family, friend, partner, etc) just knew to do it and get it done. Not ask what needed to be done, or not even say “I’m going to do___” (to reduce my overthinking, micromanaging or additional requests on top of it)
I had babies after most of my friends and family, and actually what was helpful to me was hearing things like “what worked for me was_____.” Reassuring that many moms struggle with similar things and that there is no one answer but by hearing how others found solutions was always so helpful.
A friend once told me while I was still pregnant to remember that every stage is temporary. That has helped me overcome challenging days, hours, weeks, months. Things will always be changing.
Also “there’s a surprise at your front door” lol. I didn’t want the pressure of visitors right away but still appreciated thoughtful things whether food delivered or gifts or groceries. When someone could offer something but not “have to see the baby!” I felt so calm and appreciative.