Bridgetams@alumni.nd.edu

My parents used to say “it’s okay to scream, but I don’t want to hear it,” and…well, my therapist can tell you that it’s problematic. 🙂 Basically, it teaches your kid that they should only share positive feelings with the people who love them, and that they should hide and be alone with their anger and sadness.

I do remove my screaming kid from other people when she’s been disruptive – but then I stay with her. “You can scream, but you can’t scream at the dinner table. We’ll stay over here until you calm down.”