christina.stewart

Potty learning is a process for both the child and the parent. It sounds like you might need a reset. This is a process that has to be lead by the child with encouragement from adults. For the last almost 4 years it’s all she’s known. It can feel scary to learn this whole process.

I would recommend dedicating a weekend where you can be at home and support her building up her skills with the potty.
If she wakes up dry I would have her go use the potty right away. If she wakes up wet she might not have to go again until after breakfast. Remind her she’s in underwear and to check in with her body.

It can feel hard to let your child lead this process but from what you shared it sounds like it’s become a power struggle and you’ll never win because you can’t force any one to use the potty.

If you are noticing her wiggling or holding herself say “your buddy is telling you it needs to go potty.” “It’s time to check in and if nothing comes out that’s okay.”

If she pees reminder that was her body of telling her she needed to go.

There will be accidents because it’s just part of the process of potty learning. Even at almost 4 the world of distraction is hard to step away and go potty.

Learning how to use the potty, listen to your body, and make I’m time to the potty takes time but she’ll get there!