Fabulous56

I was 45 when I had my one and only child. My husband and I were ambivalent about it in our 30s and I always felt that children deserved to be truly wanted so we thought we might never have them. But one day that feeling changed. We started trying when I was 42. Being older meant some heartache as the miscarriage rate gets close to 50%. But we ended up with a healthy baby. When the desire to have a baby came to me I felt it so strongly, I had no doubts or hesitations. But still I have struggled at times as a mom. Our society isn’t as supportive as it could be to families of young children. But I have no regrets. Being a mom has changed and enriched my life in many ways. But it also limited it too. I was a better aunt to my nephews when I didn’t have a child ( free to pitch in and drive to my sisters when she needed help) but after my own son was born, between work and parenting I was stretched pretty thin. I feel like I gave up some freedom when I became a mom. It was like a trade and for me it was a good trade. But I know I could’ve been happy and had a good life either way. No one else can really tell you what is right for you. That answer lies within. I will say my own strong desire to have a baby came on after I was in therapy and healed some childhood hurts that had been deep inside and just under the surface at the same time. If it’s weighing heavily on your mind, a good therapist might help you find the answers that are within you