MoonRiver

So many great comments here. For what it’s worth, I also felt very uncertain about having kids. When you encounter other people who knew they wanted to be parents their whole lives, it can make you wonder if not having that certainty means you shouldn’t do it. I also wasn’t obsessed with other people’s kids (but never disliked children). We now have two kids and I love being a parent. Parenting isn’t “easy”, but it feels as though they opened up another dimension. Being a parent has changed my relationship to all other humans. I understand my own parents differently now, and I see the similarities between what kids need and what adults need. As others have stated, it’s much easier to express the hard parts in language, which you can already imagine (being tired, having less time for yourself, etc.) than it is to express the good parts, because it is such an immense line to cross in life. I didn’t realize how much it would change me (for the better!). No one else can tell you if it’s right for you. Whatever you choose, you can make that path the “right” choice through your own perspective and actions. But let me ask you this: is it perhaps a meaningful indicator that you chose to ask this question to a community of people who did choose to have kids? Sometimes I figure out what I really want when I realize that I am looking to be convinced.