ctwignall

I think it’s important to be honest and direct. I don’t suggest a group chat because it’s passive aggressive- if it’s clearly just one family everyone will know. These are your friends- talk to the mom- something like “we love having everyone over, but it’s honestly becoming a little stressful when it seems like (her kid) it’s careful with our toys. We’re really trying to help (my kid) learn about respecting things. Do you think you can watch (your kid) a little more carefully? I’d really appreciate it.” See what happens- it could be awesome for your friendship (I’d hope my friend would be honest with me). If they respond in a way that isn’t respectful, don’t have them over until the toddler phase is over- or your hang time with that friend might need to not involve kids, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

The mantra that helped me so much and that I recommend is “gentleness.” Gentle with yourself (it’s all new and can be so hard!), gentle with those who love you, gentle with baby (or toddler 🤪)- just think “gentleness”. It helped me slow down and just be kinder to myself, which I needed.