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I was exactly you three years ago. My husband and I were completely undecided. When do you decide, okay it’s time to upend my life and make everything way harder? Can’t wait to deal with all the misery of caring for a newborn. It’s extremely hard. All of the negatives I saw and heard from people really weighed on me and made it seem like having kids was going to be a miserable experience. One day though we just decided, hey let’s see what happens. And I got pregnant. I am so glad we did this. It is an experience unlike any other and watching all of it has been so interesting. It also wasn’t nearly as bad as I was imagining in my head. It was hard, yes, but totally doable. My 18 months old is so cute. I am typing this at nine am on our way to the beach. Just decided at eight to take the trip. Diaper bag is always packed. Just made breakfast real quick and hopped in the car. Parenting is what you make of it. It’s my firm belief (maybe wrong) that anyone on the fence should just do it. I think people who really don’t want kids know it. Will you regret not having kids? Probably not. But if you think that growing and raising a child with your partner would be an interesting and rewarding experience you should do it.

Big caveat. For those who are married. You need a strong foundation. You need to understand your own emotions, communicate them, and you need to be able to talk to your partner and feel you can trust them and vice versa. You need to learn to take care of a kid together and it’s something neither of you has ever done before. It is very easy for one person to just start doing things, start doing things “their way” then the other partner doesn’t know what to do, then resentment builds. It becomes a mess. You gotta parent together. That part is difficult and depends on each partners personality and preferences.

Anyway I hope this helps. My two cents.