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I could have written this myself a couple years ago. My husband and I were really happy without kids – adventurous, flexible, always trying new things. I was scared about what having kids would mean for those things. But I took my 10-year sabbatical at work and traveled, and in that brain break, had the feeling that a child could be an adventure we would always be on.

There are so many things about parenthood that are hard and expensive, and no, we are not as flexible as we used to be. Probably won’t be ever again. But if in asking yourself what you value about your kid-free life, the answer could in fact be amplified by a child, then go for it! Adventure and experiences moving forward will be so much better because watching my son doing new things is magical. If the best version of your life would be made more complicated by $$, being tied down for awhile, and having to simplify some priorities… then maybe not.

For me, motherhood is a house where you can only turn the lights on in a couple rooms at a time. The things you value most are all still in the house, I just can’t have all the lights on at once, and that’s okay for me.