ElizabethR

Great idea! Thanks!

I love this language for it! So perfect.

No answers, just the same question! I theory I believe it’s my partner’s job; but in reality I feel guilty (since he doesn’t do anything save maybe a phone call or text).

My MIL and my own mother live in town. In theory, I believe that as a mother with small children I should be the one celebrated/treated today; but in reality I am trying to make my wonderful mother feel loved while also getting any break or self-care in that I can on this day. I’ve told my mom this. She is an amazing mom and she agrees. And yet I still feel really guilty and torn about doing things for her or my mom. If I do something with the kids and my mom, then I am leaving out my MIL so that feels complicated. Tough holiday!!

Ugh, I feel you on the decision paralysis! Do you have a relationship with you mom such that you can call her and tell her how stressed you are, and figure out a solution together? (Maybe she’d hear your stress and she’d be happy to agree you should cancel! Depends on the mom, though…)

Sending love to you! This made me cry. That is so much to process on one “holiday,” I hope you get some time to process the feelings and can be compassionate with yourself.

@Katie, this is what we typically do in my family! On Mother’s Day, my husband watches the kids all day (and/or does primary parenting while we are together as a family, if that’s what I want); and on Father’s Day, he gets the day off to whatever extent he wants. I hope knowing others want that to can relieve you of your guilt!