Judy01

It’s so hard but this was my experience. I was 35 and my husband and I had made up our mind we weren’t going to have kids for the reasons you mentioned. We were happy, loved our freedom, traveled, weren’t stressed and were rocking our careers. At 36, I had an unplanned pregnancy. I was devastated because the life I had envisioned was no more. Fast forward and I’m now the mom of the most precious 4 year old and every day I say to my husband, can you imagine if we hadn’t had him? He is the absolute best thing in my life. But it IS hard. It WILL cause stress in your marriage. Your lifestyle WILL change, however for me, it is totally worth it for the simple joy and love he also brings to our family. But that’s part of what makes it so sweet I think. You go through these tough periods and come out the other side stronger, more resilient and empowered. By the time he was 2, we were traveling again, going out, and back to our adventure lifestyle – just now with a little guy in tow and it’s been a dream. He certainly doesn’t make much easier right now, but all the hard work is so worth it for us. It’s such a hard decision when you are on the fence. It has been the most challenging work we’ve ever done but also the most rewarding and life changing in the best way. In hindsight, we were ready for something different and when I now look back to who I was pre-child, I can’t relate to what was important to me then. My son has made life harder but in the best way possible. You have to be open to going through challenges knowing the reward is sweet.