Jamielk

I know I’m late to the party here, but reading all of these is making me cry. I needed to hear the comment below about how it might take a while to bond with your baby. I also had a traumatic C-section and then re-admission to the hospital for preeclampsia, with both times being confined to bed due to being a fall risk. I therefore had no ability to care for the baby when she cried, since I couldn’t get up. On one hand this gave my husband an incredible opportunity to bond with our new baby. On the other hand I remember sobbing weeks later about the feeling that I missed the bonding window. Seven months later, I’m just remembering this now and feeling like I wish I had known how in love I would be.

I also wished that all of the baby books would stop telling me to lean on my village. What if you don’t have a village? What if all of your friends and family live too far away to physically help, and those who do live close enough aren’t physically able? Being told to lean on your village when you don’t have one is pretty hard to hear. And lonely.