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I grew up indifferent to becoming a parent. I then found an openness to becoming one if I was the right partner. I didn’t want to parent on my own for the sake of being a parent; I needed to know my partner was in it just as much as me. I have friends where the woman is assumed to be the lead parent. I have friends where the partnership is clearly healthy. I have friends without kids. Ultimately, we chose to have a child. She’s almost 2 years old now and I can say it was a good decision for us. It’s come with challenges of course, but I don’t regret having a child. That said, I’ve made a point to not “just become a mom” – I’m still everything else I was before with the added label of “mom.” I’m of the opinion that if you continue to date your partner, maintain friendships, do your hobbies, create time for yourself, you can find balance.