KimberleyKai

I never comment, but this question is something I really struggled with for a while in life and resonate with. In the end, I think I genuinely could have been happy in either life I chose. This article below is the most helpful thing I ever found and read while trying to make this decision, so I want to share it here too. It really helped me consider the choice I was making and imagine which future I wanted for myself. Maybe it will help someone here too: https://therumpus.net/2011/04/21/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-71-the-ghost-ship-that-didnt-carry-us/

Spoiler alert: I now have an 11-month-old. It is certainly difficult to be a parent,
moreso than I expected. But I would never change my decision or give her up— she is such an incredible joy to me— but I also know I could have been happy without her too. It is such a personal and profoundly difficult decision you are making, but know that both options can be beautiful and good, just different.