Anomaliz

I definitely identify with this! I’d heard so much about the “4th trimester” that I really expected things to turn a corner after 3 months but 4 months old was still the very hardest age we’ve gone through with my little one (admittedly only 9 months old) so far. And I felt even more gaslit because everyone had been messaging that the first 3 months are the hardest.

What I needed to hear was: you can’t problem solve everything. A lot about babies is fundamentally unknowable; learn to make peace with the uncertainty. If you wait a few days, often whatever’s going wrong will pass on its own.