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Both my wife and I would agree 1->2 was harder than 0->1, despite the fact that for us #2 has in many ways been the “easier” baby.

Like sure, it helps that we were a lot more confident in taking care of a newborn, but this is outweighed by how much less space there is for rest and breaks and getting things done because there’s also a 3-year-old around with his own needs, we can’t just focus on one baby, take turns, etc nearly as easily anymore.

One possibly relevant factor is that our first was born in 2020, so our lives had already shifted in a weird way due to lockdowns months before he was born.

But still, I’m a bit surprised that the consensus seems to be that 0 to 1 is the hardest step. Things are already showing signs of getting a bit easier, hopefully they will continue to do so (and we can get back to the scary dilemma of whether to have a third).