Mary

Our society does not make answering this question easy. I was never a woman who just HAD to be a mother. My husband and I have been together for 18 years (married for 8) and struggled with fertility for 6 years. We were both back and forth/on the fence about having children, especially because it didn’t come easy for us. We were ok with not having kids, but there was a part of me that would have regretted not trying–for me that meant going as far as IUI but not IVF. After two rounds of IUI, we now have a 3 week old daughter. My birth experience was traumatic, but even though I’m new to the parent club, I can tell you that all the pain and effort and heartbreak was worth it to look at this little creature we made. To me–there are two sides of the coin. (1) The people who really don’t want kids know that they don’t want them. (2) And then there are people who try but are ok with the outcome of no kids. The hesitancy I sense in you is being scared that things will change and being afraid of the unknown. There are SO many unknowns. But ultimately if you feel peace and ease with not having kids and not trying to have kids, then there’s no reason to doubt your choice.