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100% on the “crushing consistency”.

Since we have been very consistent with enforcing consequences with our kid, we actually very rarely need to enforce consequences nowadays since they know we will follow through. Generally there is something else going on (tired, hungry, overstimulated, etc.) if we get the point to enforcing a consequence.

My 3.5yo has been doing swimming lessons, and although generally good at following the teacher, can sometimes get amped up/distracted by the other children. A simple reminder that we will leave the pool and swimming lessons for the day if they don’t follow their teacher’s instructions and they are immediately on-task again because they know we would genuinely pick them up and leave the pool.