pmilli

I’m a 67 year old mother of 4 and grandmother of 8, so definitely a Boomer full of Boomer attitudes but I also feel like I can offer a long view. First, do you know any kids or have experience with any kids? Do you like and enjoy kids, even while being aware that they’re actual people and not just cuddly angels? Or devils, either, but growing and changing little humans. 😉 Are you flexible and tolerant of changes in your life, even if those changes are mostly positive? To answer what seems to be your primary question, yes, kids take a massive toll on your life. But so does anything worth doing. Training for and running a race takes a toll on your life, but the benefits are so worth it. Raising 4 kids was a lot of work and expense, but also joy and growth. At 67, my children and in-law children are the people in this world my husband and I are closest too. Our grandchildren are a source of joy and keep us young and outward-facing. I read a quote somewhere that if a person was planning a dinner party for the people she most wanted to spend time with, she’d invite her adult children and their partners. This is true for me. So, if you and your husband are happy with your life and have everything you need for growth and fulfillment, by all means remain “child-free.” But, consider the your future as well.