Sarahesea

This was also really helpful to me in the early days after our loss: https://whatsyourgrief.com/growing-around-grief/

I’m so sorry to hear about your sister’s, and your family’s, loss. I had a loss at 21 weeks and eventually found my way to Empty Arms. They’re based in Western Massachusetts (I’m not) but they have great resources on their website for friends and family, as well as for parents: http://www.emptyarmsbereavement.org/resources-for-family-friends

Sometimes there are no words to say, because nothing anyone says can make something better. Just being there, checking in, providing care without being asked, can be so meaningful. I think the previous comment about not being afraid to talk about the baby who was lost, is also important. Especially if there’s a future pregnancy, because that pregnancy will be informed by the one that was lost.

You and your sister and your family will have better days ahead. Your sister is also so fortunate to have you in her life. Sending lots of care your way.