Sarah

For me, this falls into two categories. There are things that I heard in the early days that totally turned out to be true, but I’m not sure I could really believe at the time. For instance – “this too shall pass” / “everything is a phase” / “you will feel like yourself again”. All of those things turned out to be true, and in retrospect I’m really glad people said them to me, but I couldn’t really allow myself to believe them at the time.

The thing I think I most needed to hear in the early days was to do whatever I wanted/would make me feel good when the baby slept. None of that “sleep when the baby sleeps” crap – yes, sometimes I took a nap when the baby was sleeping, but mostly, I wanted to do something that made me feel human again when the baby slept. Sometimes that was as mundane as folding laundry in front of trashy TV. I wish someone had said that to me instead of constantly telling me to sleep!!