shultgren

To say I went through this debate with myself is putting it mildly. I struggled for years with the decision as I’m someone who LOVES to travel the world and have booked flights to various international destinations bc I got a good deal and had the flexibility to go the following week. Once I had been to all 7 continents, I felt like I could slow down a bit and decided to have one kid and see how it went (I was 34 at first conception but miscarried, got pregnant with my first at 35). I quickly realized that I have no freedom or spontaneity in my life, but I was 100% okay with it. A fact that even surprised me! I am now nearly done with 40 with a 3.5 yo and 13 month old and while my life is absolute chaos, completely unpredictable and yes, I have more anxiety, I’m ultimately really happy I decided to have kids. Do I miss being able to travel overseas? Absolutely! But I know it’s not gone forever and there is so much joy in my life now in very different ways. Good luck!!